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LiveJournal Friends Lists [Feb. 24th, 2002|11:51 am]
The Love Bug
This has been bugging me for some time now, and I feel I have to say something.

This is not directed at anyone in particular... this is just my own thoughts.


The word "Friend" when applied to LiveJournal is a misnomer. The correct phrase should be something to the effect of "Someone whose LiveJournal I want to see, and who I want to see my Friends-Only entries"

A LiveJournal "Friend" does not necessary have to be a real life friend.

If someone is a real-life friend and removes you from their LiveJournal "Friends" list, it does not mean that they are no longer your real-life friend.

Conversely, if someone adds you as a LiveJournal "Friend", that does not necessarily make them a real-life friend.

I am seeing so many examples of people who are complaining when someone removes them from their LiveJournal "Friends" list, it concerns me that people are taking LiveJournal "Friends" too seriously.

If any of you were to remove me from your LiveJournal "Friends", I would recognise that as your right, and although I would wonder why (in most cases), I certainly would not make a big issue of it.

At the end of the day... LiveJournal aside... I know who my real friends are. If they remove me from LiveJournal "Friends", they are still my friends.


[User Picture]From: julie_obrien
2002-02-24 03:55 am (UTC)
I know it's not directed at anyone in particular, but I want to say that regarding my latest post about gloi deleting me, I was just concerned about him and don't know of any other ways to find out if he's okay other than through LJ. People can delete me left right and centre and I really don't mind. It's just a few of my LJ "friends" I do consider friends and do care about their welfare and that everything is okay.

I know you didn't aim your post at anyone, and made that clear, but as I was the last person on your friends list to mention someone deleting me, I thought I'd mention it.
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[User Picture]From: novemberbug
2002-02-24 05:21 am (UTC)
Here, here! You are a wise bug who speaks many truths!

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From: jwhiskers_
2002-02-24 05:25 am (UTC)
a stirling observation!

i don't necessarily want to wade through pages and pages of 'friends' posts.. but that doesn't mean i don't like them!

amen to that!

you have provided us all with a valuable service.. saying what you think :o>


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[User Picture]From: bnb
2002-02-24 06:16 am (UTC)
Never has a truer word been said. I do wish people would stop making such a big issue of whos on or off friends lists. If you want anyone to be able to view any part of your "non-public" journal you have to make them a friend, even if they are not.
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[User Picture]From: crazybee
2002-02-24 06:17 am (UTC)

the wisdom of the bug again shines though.

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[User Picture]From: tazzy
2002-02-24 06:34 am (UTC)

/me concures

Hi Dave,

I concure with that ...

I think that a lot of things are taken too seriously. I think that there is a lot of people on livejournal taking there day to day frustrations out on squabbling here (the power game ...I am me so I can belittle people thang) ...

I think of my friends list as a list of people, friendly people, whom know me from elsewhere or who have added me and I added them in exchange ...and I try to read (when time permits) and comment when I think I have something constructive to say on their entries.

Well tis my tuppence worth ...

I hope that everything is going well for you and Caroline and that your house is looking much more like you wish it to be :o)

Speak soon,

Take care,

Stu :o)
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[User Picture]From: tassy
2002-02-24 07:52 am (UTC)
Very well said!

I knew there was something I liked about you ;) *winks*
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[User Picture]From: clicker
2002-02-24 11:35 am (UTC)
Yeah, I have seen that myself. I add people in whom I feel a friendly interest, or that I am close to. It doesn't mean a lot, except that I am interested in what they have to say. Perhaps real friends will be made through this, it is entirely possible. Perhaps I will get busy and have to let some people off my "friends" section because I just don't have time to read them all, or find they do not interest me as I'd hoped. It doesn't mean that I dislike them or wish them ill, in most cases it's probably hardly related to how I feel about them at all... :)

Though I doubt I'll take my daughter off my "friends" list... LOL

I have seen people drop "friends" as an act of spite - all I can say is that we are better off without those sorts of acquaintances anyway. They add little to our lives.

Good rant!

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