who ever it is I hope he askes soon for his sake as well as his family's
I hope he gets it sorted soon.
There's only a certain amount of time that he can spend doing this.
I don't know if it's who I think it is but they will burn out, in fact they both will and while I am primarily concerned with his partner in crime I don't wish to see either of them hit the bottom.
Very few people come back from there so if you do read this then please stop now before it gets to a point where you can't come back, there are people who care about you and will do whatever they can to help.
I don't think you are thinking of the right person but I believe I know who you are thinking about above ;(
and in many ways I'm hoping my friend doesnt follow the path of the 2 you mentioned ;(
Dave (as I assume your name is Dave)-
I don't know if you are a religious person at all, I was much more so in high school when my life was a bit more tumultuous but still am a fairly devout "liberal" Catholic, but I just want you to know that your/Caroline's friend is in my prayers, that he can find the stability and presence of mind that he needs. I hope I don't sound like a holy-roller, I just feel for this person, as being the young twenty-something that I am, I know many people who have been like he is or are currently struggling through, and I wish for the best for him.
That's all from this side of the pond. :)
I know who you mean, its a shame, ive tried to be there for him but hes now pushing me away, we all hope he doesnt do anything silly.
I really hope he turns it around, but you know yourself that it's something that only that person in the situation can do; only he can see where he's going wrong and get himself back on track. You never learn entirely by other people's experience, but it can give you some guidance.
I'll tell you my story. I was a nasty piece of work when I was 17. I was sarcastic and nasty to everyone, family and friends alike. It took one person to give me a big shock, but I didn't wholly accept her words at the time and it was only later that I really accepted what she said, although I had begun to break down the nasty exterior at the time she told me off. The thing is that now she's come back into my life, I can't bring myself to trust her, because I'm afraid she's gonna do it again, even though I've done my level best to change. Oh well.
Sending *good vibes* to your friend, and *hugs* to you and Caroline as always :-)
Best wishes and prayers to your friend...
I have only just come across this thread so don’t think I was avoiding it when I obviously wasn’t.
I do find it somewhat harsh the way you have portrayed me in your comments here, to someone who might not know me at all after reading that, I dread to think the image they have built up from what you have said, some smack head who mugs old ladies to get their next fix perhaps?..
Granted, I shall be the first to admit this year has not been my year at all, with my placement falling through I was gutted beyond words and not feeling ready to return to university yet, I’ve been basically drifting but most importantly having fun in the process within my limits.
I say within my limits I mean with money that is available to me, I have not turned to crime to feed my clubbing habits, and money I have rightfully earnt with jobs I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy!, I have spent wisely believe it or not.
On the drugs issue, I’m not going to beable to reason with any of you at all because it’s clear that I am the bad boy and that is that.
The fact is, it’s the way club culture is, people take drugs!
If you were to have asked me 9 months or so ago, are you in control Shaun? I’d probably in all honesty say no I’m not! But now, I feel that I have calmed down a hell of a lot and you certainly learn through experiences on how to take whatever you are taking to a sensible level (as sensible as taking drugs gets!)
You can get on your high horse and preach to me and thousands of other clubbers that take drugs when they go out how bad they are, but I know what’s what and that’s from first hand experience rather than reading it up on a website!
My attitude, Id like you to elaborate on that please, I’m not quite clear on what you mean?? How have I been treating my friends, I have certainly noticed some of them have drifted away, some of which I get the occasional acknowledgement through a MSN chat lasting no more than 30 characters if I’m lucky!. How have I been treating my parents?, from all the way down there in Berkshire, I’m intrigued to how you seem to know what’s going on around me more than I do
I think we need to clarify here my use of drugs, yes it is wrong but aren’t a lot of things in life and It’s certainly not something big nor clever and don’t make them out to be as so! But when I do them, it is for recreational use, I am not a junkie, far from it, I have learnt that you should respect drugs, and in return they respect you back! I know the safety issues surrounding them; do you think I honestly want to put myself in danger? I think you need to read up on drugs use and educate yourself a little
Yes I have a lot to look forward to in life, but right not much at all, sad as it is but it’s bloody well true, clubbing being the biggest passion of mine is something which brings me out of my shell, are you saying I should give all that up?
I am currently looking for a job to tie me over the summer months and I shall get one! I’ve been shafted too many times over this past year by people and companies alike, and in the past it has gotten me down to a point where I was asking myself what is the point? But now, I am determined and I have joined a few agencies and even applied online today for 2 jobs in the local area.
It’s not like I have been sat on my bum allay, well not quite all the time, recently I went for a couple of jobs, I was unsuccessful, then I did some work for a friend and was pleased that he gave me such a massive responsibility, something which at least can go down as having done something productive this year, not to mention the web project I did late last year, its all work and documented in my CV,
I do find it quite hurtful that you or anyone else couldn’t feel the need to confront me on your concerns in private; it’s nice to know I am approachable n all