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Jeff... [Mar. 19th, 2003|08:40 pm]
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Jeff was involved in a traffic accident at about 21:30 on Tuesday night, and has sadly died.

He was my flatmate for 6 years, and some of you may remember his as an usher at our wedding.

He was a externally happy bloke, with one heck of a lot of friends and people who loved him. But he did have a lot of inner loneliness and sadness. Fortunately, none of that will bother him any more. He is in a better place now.

Jeff Tong

Alexander Jeffrey Tong
14 October 1953 - 18 March 2003

[User Picture]From: stephaniewalker
2003-03-19 12:51 pm (UTC)
I really dont know what to say.

I hope you are both ok.
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[User Picture]From: novemberbug
2003-03-19 12:56 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry Dave. You know where I am if you want to talk.
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[User Picture]From: seren
2003-03-19 12:56 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear that, and am thinking of you both.
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[User Picture]From: chicaboo25
2003-03-19 01:12 pm (UTC)
Dave, so sorry to hear of your loss of a dear friend. *hugs*

I am here if you need anything.
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[User Picture]From: nikichick4
2003-03-19 01:14 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry!
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[User Picture]From: katster
2003-03-19 01:32 pm (UTC)

I'm sorry.

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[User Picture]From: bluelotus
2003-03-19 02:05 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry about your friend Dave. I guess things like this will bring you and Caroline even closer together.
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[User Picture]From: girliebomb
2003-03-19 02:41 pm (UTC)
*hugs* My sympathies go out to everyone who knew him!
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[User Picture]From: conphie
2003-03-19 03:41 pm (UTC)
Dave - just want you to know that our thoughts are with you!


Karen and Phil x
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[User Picture]From: grumpydave
2003-03-19 03:50 pm (UTC)
So sorry to hear it Dave.
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[User Picture]From: darkdaze
2003-03-19 04:35 pm (UTC)
Both Hayley and I are shocked to hear this news, Dave.

Even from a point of remembering him as an usher, it adds an element of reality to the situation. I've known accidents happen in the city centre here, and you can never quite put yourself in the shoes of the family and friends.

If you need to talk, my phone is always on, and I'm pretty much always around.
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[User Picture]From: magenta25
2003-03-19 06:44 pm (UTC)
I am really sorry about your loss. you and his family are in my prayers.
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[User Picture]From: lothie
2003-03-19 07:44 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry.
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[User Picture]From: dcthornton
2003-03-19 08:36 pm (UTC)
My sympathies go out to you and Jeff's loved ones.
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[User Picture]From: podgeboy
2003-03-19 08:41 pm (UTC)
Sorry to hear the news mate, my thoughts are with all that knew him.
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[User Picture]From: nita_01nita
2003-03-19 11:49 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.
My thoughts are with you, Caroline and everyone who knew him
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[User Picture]From: avalon
2003-03-20 09:37 am (UTC)
That was a very beautiful cake! He was obviously very talented and the wonderful things he did will never be forgotten. I'd like to think that God needed him now for a special reason, and he'll have many warm things to share with you when you meet with him again one day in Heaven.

Remember that it's okay to cry! It's okay to scream if you need to. It's okay to call someone at 3 in the morning and weep if you need to. "Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep" (Romans 12:15) Jesus, himself, wept. Tears release chemicals which help us feel better; crying helps to release the endorphins that are mood-elevating and pain relieving into the bloodstream. People feel physically better after having a good cry.

Remember also that Jesus said, "Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted." (Matthew 5:4) You have to mourn. Just as you would nurture and take care of a broken bone, you have to nurture your spirit right now. Jesus knew that there is a healing that can come when we face our grief head-on. We have to fight the temptation in grief that makes us want to hide away and try to handle it ourselves. There is a comfort that can come when we are willing to be honest about how tough it has been to lose our loved ones. There is a blessing that will come when we let the tears flow and allow others to listen deeply to our pain. Even Jesus, the Son of God, went through intense grief and loss. The shortest verse in the bible is simply 'Jesus wept.' Weeping is an expression of the depth of our love. By rising from the dead, Jesus proved that death does not have the final word. By faith in Jesus Christ's resurrection, we will see our loved ones again. We need not fear as we grieve, for Jesus has them in his loving arms.

Jeff will always be a part of you. Your life was enhanced because of him, just as his life was enhanced by you. The times that we share with loved ones who go before us, never seems to be enough, but rejoice and be thankful for cherished memories that will last you a lifetime.

I know your heart throbs right now, but just as darkness leaves when you turn on the light, hope springs eternal when you call on the Lord.

"Now is your time of grief, but I will see you again, and you will rejoice, and no one will take away your joy." (John 16:22)

"For I shall never leave you, nor forsake you." Hebrews 13:5
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From: all_in_a_blur
2003-03-20 10:20 am (UTC)
I'm sure Jeff is smiling down on you all hun *hugs*
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[User Picture]From: hayley
2003-03-23 06:43 am (UTC)
sorry to hear of your loss. Chris and I are thinking about you both x
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