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[Jul. 28th, 2001|11:19 pm]
The Love Bug
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We judge. It's so true... but we judge without cause.

For example, I hadn't really thought much about Gail Porter. All the lads at work rave on about her, 'cos she's so damn hot, etc, etc. It's so difficult to remember that beyond the opinions of other (perhaps biased) people, there is a real, live, human being. Having seen the Celebrity Blind Mans Bluff on telly the other night, I now view her in a totally different light. I now feel ashamed for the way I thought of her originally. She is a genuine human being, with feelings.

Another example, is someone that I met up with this evening. This person - whom I usually talk to on IRC - comes across as someone who is demanding and sometimes intimidating. This evening, whilst talking to this person, I had a much better idea of how their mind worked, and the reasons behind their actions. I now view *this* person in a much different light, and likewise feel some shame for the way I mentally disregarded them. If the person reads this, they'll possibly know who they are. But I shall not identify them openly.

Similarly, on the opposite side of the coin, there are some people who will be blind to the negative side of people, but this is not so common.

Why do we do this? 'Cos I know for a fact that I'm not the only one that does this.
Why can't we see past our own prejudices and see the real person within?

[User Picture]From: poggs
2001-07-29 07:53 am (UTC)
Woah, deep.

Gail Porter is lovely - she is regarded as masturbatory material by too many men's magazines. I see them when looking for 'Wired' in the newsagents.

Melinda Messenger is also lovely - she's somebody you could have a decent conversation with, as long as you weren't the sort who would go up, play with her breasts, and say "If you go jogging, do you get a black eye?"
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[User Picture]From: thelovebug
2001-07-30 03:24 am (UTC)
Thing is, I tend to turn a blind eye to people who are referred to in that manner. But I know it's wrong. I think it's because my opinions differ so much from other peoples that I tend to take the opposite stance without even thinking about it.

So I end up writing someone off without even knowing who they are... until I find out who they are.

If that makes sense?
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From: ex_clarebear864
2001-07-30 01:20 am (UTC)
A lot of people do judge without cause. Unfortunately that seems to be what the world we now live in is like.

I have judged people in the past, everyone does at some point in their lives, and have regretted it afterwards when I got to know the true person within.

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[User Picture]From: thelovebug
2001-07-30 03:24 am (UTC)

Exactly my point.

A very humbling experience.
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